I was thinking....
"When you recognize that failing doesn't make you a failure, you give yourself permission to try all sorts of things." ~Lauren Fleshman, American track and field athlete
We are so darn hard on ourselves.
We start our day thinking we're going to fail and therefore there's no point in trying.
Sometimes we just don't bother to give ourselves a break.
It's something we just do to ourselves. So how do we stop the cycle of negative I cant's?
Well I think one way is to begin by changing those pesky words in our minds. Start saying I can but don't set a time limit. Don't say I can next week because that's just setting yourself up to fail. Instead say I can and I will (health permitting) and then just go do what you set out to do.
When I speak with someone who wants to lose weight, lots of weight tomorrow I remind them that it is NOT possible to lose a lot of weight or body fat over night, rather take your time and go at it slowly and you'll find yourself feeling healthy before you notice the weight loss.
Magazines with perfect everything in pictures are most damaging. Perfect marriages, perfect husband, perfect kids, perfect homes, perfect skin and body.... come one people. Seriously now. NO ONE IS PERFECT! No man, no woman, no kid.. no one!
The grass is always greener on the other side. Then you go to the other side and find out that it's astro turf! Ha!
- Start by loving who you are and what you have.
- Keep in mind that some of things we complain about are "first world problems."
- Write down goals, share them with friends and family. Let them know what your plans are for improving...whatever it is you wish to improve.
- Be proactive, plan in advance and plan with a positive goal in mind.
- Don't ever say I cant or I'll try just say I WILL!
Believe me. I've spent some time living the military life, married to the same guy, and raising 4 kids. I have had my share of "I wish I had her life" moments and then found out I was glad I didn't have her life.
It's time to forgive yourself a little more and give yourself a break. Learn to love yourself and you will become a much happier you.